Live a life without regrets

Don’t get to the end of your life and find you have many regrets which because time or energy is running out, you cannot achieve.

What does it mean to have regrets?

  • It means that you are remorseful or sad that you didn’t do or say certain things in your life which you now wish you had.
  • There are many areas in life in which we fail. Relationships, a job, personal goals, missing opportunities, or allowing others to dictate what we should do instead of what we would want.

Regret undermines our enjoyment of life and our confidence

  • Because we have passed up on opportunities, we miss out on learning new skills, making new friends, mending broken relationships, undermining our own health, wasting money or missing out on new experiences and so on.
  • A whole lot of experiences are foregone, and we know that we may never get them back. That knowledge can make us sad, and to have regrets.

What can you do about this regret?

  • The most important thing is to recognize the sadness and regrets and to make a list of them if you can.
  • Are there any that you can alter or fix even at this stage of your life? For example, if you have had a long standing grudge with someone that you know you will ultimately regret not attending to, could you do that?  Even if you are not successful, you will know that you gave it your best shot.
  • Is there an experience in life that you would really like and would regret not having? For example, that trip you keep promising yourself, changing jobs, going back to university or college, participating in an old or new sport or activity?

Notice the remedy is about taking action NOW

  • You may not be able to remedy all of your regrets, but you can act on many of them. Pick them off, one by one
  • Make sure every day has some pleasure in it, and that you fix any potential regret situation at the time if you can. Endeavour to live the rest of your life without regrets.

Summing up

It’s very common to have regrets and a lot of people won’t do anything to either fix old ones, or actively work to avoid having new ones.  The key is to be aware of what is going on in our lives, accepting what has happened, and being emotionally intelligent about current relationships. Recognising that you are dwelling on past omissions and getting depressed about them is important for taking remedial action.  Get help if you need to from a qualified psychologist or counsellor.